Solitude is painful when one is young, but delightful when one is more mature. – Albert Einstein
INTP. Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving. That was the result of a Myers-Briggs Personality test that I took a few years ago, at a time when I felt like my life wasn’t going anywhere. I relied on a test that contained a bunch of “would you rather-”s to tell me who I am. I guess when we’re desperate to find answers we resort to almost anything, even our daily horoscopes to give us some direction.
The test didn’t do me much good. However, one part of the test caught my attention – the “I”. I received a 100 percent score in this area despite my recent, fairly successful, attempts to combat shyness. Again, the test suggested that I do some “back end” work where I limit my contact to people. I’ve heard this so many times that it makes me angry. I like people. I want to be a people’s person. A few years later, I came across a book called “Introversion Advantage.”
I’ve always thought that extroversion leads to happiness and success, especially for a young male venturing out to make a living. I’ve been taught this in Psychology too. This book suggested otherwise. The author argues that most psychologists who do such studies are often extroverts and end up using the wrong factors to measure such indicators. While most of the book was giving obvious facts, there were some eye-opening lessons in there.
Introverts get their energy from solitude. We need our downtime. When we spend a significant amount of time in social situations, we feel exhausted. This reminds me of a moment in Pittsburgh when I would go to my room to just lie down after coming back from a whole day of social interaction. A friend of mine thought I had a special someone to talk to on the phone, who I was hiding from everyone else. The truth is I just wanted to be alone.
Here are some other eye-openers:
- During the IDC at Harvard, I had interacted with so many people in such a small span of time that I could hardly breathe (i’m not exaggerating!). Furthermore, I could barely find a spot where I could be alone. The anxiety was building up until it was too much to handle. I decided to give myself a break – I walked out of the building towards my hotel. I went into my room, took 5 minutes to recharge, and was back to socialize again.
- Now I’m sure you’ve seen this. During University hours, I get so exhausted that social interaction becomes impossible. That is when my iPod comes in handy. I just pop in my headphones and exclude myself from the world. I was surprised to know that some people actually call me “the iPod guy.”
The fact is that we live in a time where extroversion is celebrated. “Go-getters” and outgoing people are considered smarter and more ambitious. Introverts have their advantage. We are intuitive people who make great listeners. We tend to be more perceptive and are able internalize our judgments. Just because we don’t talk as much or socialize as much as others does not mean that we are not engaged members of society .
Introverts make up 25% of the world’s population. However, many people who thought they were extroverts might be introverts or vice versa. Perhaps a lot of you can relate to what I’ve said above and realize that you might be an introvert as well. Think about what gives you your boost – you might be surprised.
Famous Introverts — Actors
Clint Eastwood, actor/director
Harrison Ford, actor
Tom Hanks, actor
Sir Alfred Hitchcock, film director
Jack Lemmon, late actor
Bill Macy, actor
Steve Martin, all around talented guy
Noah Wiley, actor
Other Famous Introverts
Johnny Carson, former Tonight Show host
Jane Clayson, host of CBS Morning Show
Matt Lauer, co-host on the Today Show
David Letterman, host of the David Letterman Show
Diane Sawyer, co-host of ABC’s Good Morning America
Barbara Walters, host of 20/20
source of famous introverts: http://theadventurouswriter.com/blog/famous-introverts-introverted-personality-types-traits/
Aug 01, 2011 @ 05:46:18
Wow! This article was like understanding myself from a completely different perspective….many of my family members and friends do know that I’m an introvert as well and they may not like this fact but I’m happy the way I am :) im tempted to read this book now ;)
Aug 03, 2011 @ 06:31:04
thank you hira! yeah i always took you as an introvert. And take it from me, its on my kindle!
Aug 01, 2011 @ 05:46:50
Great article Waleed! loved it :)
Aug 01, 2011 @ 12:36:35
Interesting article. Never really looked at this area before – but I guess its worth the effort.
Aug 03, 2011 @ 06:32:10
yeah I think we all have at least a few introverts in our lives. It’s good to know to know their temparement to avoid any miscommunication.
Aug 05, 2011 @ 23:24:11
I’ve done that Myers Brigg Test before, and at the time I was really into it. I got INFP, and I was excited that it knew I was an idealist and had big dreams and all that. The test did sort of suggest careers that would be less involved with people (other than teacher, counselor, therapist), which irritated me too because I, like you, actually really like people for the most part. I like being with people and learning more about them.
I’ve read the Introvert Advantage too, it’s a good book. I noticed while I was on a long trip with friends that by the end of the day (being out with them nonstop) I wanted to be on my own at night to just read or write while they stayed up until midnight playing card games or talking. I wasn’t really aware until now that I do kind of get tired after a whole day of socializing, and I like having a little bit of alone time.
I like what you wrote about the positives of introversion too. Great post!
Aug 07, 2011 @ 18:22:19
Thank You! I think we tend to believe that its “social anxiety” and that it is something that needs to be rectified. The book kind of made me realize that its something that we can embrace for better or worse. We tend to just focus on the negatives and forget about all the positives.
I love your “shyness project.” I’m going through it right now. Great job!
Feb 12, 2012 @ 19:59:56
Not many posts for quite some time, eh? Nice article man, I can relate to it. Though I can feel a change in me sliding from more introvert to less introvert in recent years but I found out you can only change yourself to some extent, after that you can only pretend to change yourself but then you can’t lie to yourself for too long. At some point you have to deal with who you really are.